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What To Say On A First Date!

Don't get caught without conversation starters on a first date! The guys who can wow a woman from the moment they meet her all know a secret: women love funny, relaxed, attentive guys who want to hear all about them. There is nothing that a woman finds more flattering than to be asked about her opinions, feelings, and life experiences. When you feel you are feeling shy and develop fear thats beyond your control. Just make sure
you take two bottle of Star/Stout/Legend/Gulder...etc.etc depending on the type you take. If you are the type that takes three make sure you take four at that moment..
But thats for novice.
So when you find yourself in a situation where the silence starts to grow, ask a question!
What do you want to know about this woman? I will warn you right now: she'll notice immediately if you're not really interested in her response. If you want to get to know a woman better, you need to show how interested you are in her. Better yet, when she shares her accomplishments and hobbies, you will find yourself in a perfect situation to compliment her ... and complimenting a woman will suddenly make you much more attractive in her eyes. The least attractive guy in the world can find himself swarmed with women if he simply does two things:
appreciates them and lets them know it.When you're on a first date, remember the following tips.
1. Keep all conversation positive. Never bring up negative things, like how hard your life is right now, how you've been seeking for a job for months, or how complicated things are with your parents. Avoid controversial subjects until you get to know the person better.2. Relax! Women can sense fear and nervousness, even if you think you're hiding it well. When you are nervous, you often speak faster, and you may appear more serious or intense than you usually are. You may want to
try watching a comedy, reading cartoons, or doing whatever makes you double over in uncontrollable laughter before your date.
Laughing will relax all your muscles, send good feelings to your brain, and get your blood pumping. You'll meet her with a great big smile on your face--and she'll respond.3. When she is talking, lean forward, look into her eyes (not down at her chest), and respond to what she says. If you agree, smile and nod. If she's talking about something serious, take it seriously. DO NOT lean back
in your chair and look around the restaurant as she talks. DO NOT stare at her so intensely that she feels uncomfortable. Give her the space to look back at you by occupying yourself with your plate of food, or by gazing at a spot on the tablecloth while you focus on listening to her.4. Don't ask the same old questions, as if you're going through a checklist. Everyone gets asked what they do or where they're from. Try some questions that she's never been asked before. If you can, focus the question on something that you've noticed about her specifically. For example, if she walks particularly gracefully, you might ask her if she's been a dancer. Not only will she feel flattered, but the question will give her the opportunity to talk about whether she likes dancing ... which might lead to an invitation for a second date later on in the night.Here are some other conversation starters that you might wish to ask. If any of these questions seem to strike a nerve, quickly move on. NEVER push an issue. You might sense that there is more to a topic than she wants to tell you at this point, and that's okay. The point is to make her feel comfortable and open up to you, NOT to make her feel uncomfortable and tense.Conversation Starter #1:
"Do you have a pet? What's your favorite kind of pet?"This should start up a lively conversation, because people LOVE their pets and love talking about them. If she doesn't have a pet, you might wish to ask, "Really? Why not?"Conversation Starter #2:
"That's a cool watch/necklace/pair of shoes. Where did you get it?"
The amount of time women spend preparing for dates is enormous. Most women choose
everything they wear with careful deliberation. When you notice the effort they've put in and ask about something
they've chosen to wear, they will feel flattered and appreciated ... as well as get to talk about their clothes and accessories, which every girl enjoys.Conversation Starter #3:
"Have you ever done X?"It is important to establish common ground on your first date and find some common interests. By asking her if she's ever done something that you are knowledgeable about or enjoy doing, you can find out what you have in common. Just don't use the question as a platform to go on and on about your OWN interests--no matter how interested she seems to be. Women know how to act interested, even if they're not. Mention your own hobbies, then move on to finding out more about her.Conversation Starter #4:
"Do you follow any sports teams?"
This can be a tricky question, because men are notorious for being sports buffs. Many women don't want to be with a guy who will blow them off when their favorite team is playing on a Saturday afternoon. However, if
she does follow a sports team, you may find that you'll have an instant connection, and you'll be able to surprise her with tickets to her favorite team later down the line.Conversation Starter #5:
"Have you ever been to Y?"
Everyone likes talking about places they've been. Ask her if she has ever been to a local hotspot that you enjoy. Maybe it's a club, a coffee shop, a museum, or even a park or hiking trail. If she hasn't been there, and you
are hitting it off by that point, you can use the question as a springboard for asking her out on a second date!

Good luck! I hope that these conversation starters give you an edge to sweep the next woman you meet off her feet.

The Right Time To Have Sex In a New Relationship
Published on 19/01/2008 00:00:00; 0 comments; 91 views Goodday Legworkers. I'll like to talk about "The Right Time To Have Sex" Apparently, these are the perennial questions about sex especially for women: "if we have sex, will he call," and for men, "when will she be ready." When a little suspicious of such glib formulations, just nod to the spirit of the cliches. Sex is messy and complex, and never more so than when it is with a new person. It is important, very important, to have sex at just the right time in a relationship. But here in Nigeria 80% of guyz out there are terribly after sex, and once they get it, they runaway and never look back. Many relationships are broken in Nigeria and many hearts has been terribly damaged, please lets becareful and know the right time to have it.

Do it for you
Have sex because you want to, not because you feel pressured or think the other person will disappear if you don't. A person like that is not looking for a serious relationship in the first place and you are just another receptacle for him/her. Do it when it feels right and do it for you.

Better late and more
Whether you are a man or a woman, it is always better to get physical later, rather than sooner in a relationship. Why? Because you will get to know the other person better and be in a better position to decide if you really do want to sleep with him or her. Margaret Paul, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You? says, "[People try] to get the intimate connection through sex, but great sex is an outgrowth of intimacy, not a cause of it. ... Physical attraction is never enough to see people through the inevitable conflicts that come up in primary relationships."

Focus on the relationship
As important and fun as sex is, if it is a relationship you want, then pay attention to nurturing that. Get to know the other person better and let them know things about you. If you ask yourself, "Do I trust this person?" you should be able to say, "Yes" with no doubts. This is the way to feel more comfortable around him or her, and that is a prerequisite for good sex. The physical attraction will only become stronger and more deeply grounded.

Is what you have enough?
Look at how much physical closeness you already have. Do you hold hands? Do you have trouble keeping your hands off each other? Is there a spark between you? When you kiss, do you want more? What does the person's kissing style suggest to you about their bedroom style? What do you have besides chemistry? In the answers to these questions, you will find if it is the right time, or even if it is actually what you want.

Get the time right, literally
Whether it is spontaneous or planned, make sure your first time together is relaxed and private. You don't have to have scented candles and satin sheets, but the backseat of the car in a parking lot or alleyway might not be the best place. Always be responsible; use a condom.

Be prepared for after
If you do have sex, there will be an after - whether the morning after or the munchies after. Treat what happened with respect, but not absurd devotion or gratitude. Conversation will ease any tension that either of you may feel. You can even make a few jokes, just nothing that your partner might construe as meanness. Just so you know, the first time may be lousy or amazing, but it isn't always an indicator of things to come. Sometimes people stop trying to impress their partner and become selfish and other times, greater understanding and emotional closeness makes for quantum leaps in the quality of sex.

In this time and age of instant gratification, sex has become an important parameter to judge relationships, but make sure this does not pressure you into doing anything that makes you uncomfortable.

The Perfect Way to Fall In Love
Published on 12/02/2008 00:00:00; 3 comments; 150 views It started while I was on a cruise to the Badagry with my family. At first, I wasn't too excited because no one my age came with us and I was afraid I wouldn't have much fun. My parents suggested I go to the meeting for people in my age group to meet some people. Most of the kids were younger than me and I didn't find any that I would like to hang out with.

About 15 minute into the meeting, a girl came in and sat at a table about 20 feet from me. I glanced at her and then looked back again. She was really beautiful and I thought to myself, if I could only find a girl that was that pretty and liked me....

For the rest of the meeting, most of my attention was on her. It was the end of the meeting and I decided I had to talk to her and I did. I introduced myself and said, "You must be Joke." She had a nametag on from the group that she was with.

Smiling she said, "Yes, I wonder how you figured that out." Right away I noticed her smile and wanted to talk to her even more.

The whole group from the meeting went to a comedy show for something to do. We sat down and she ended up next to me, which made me very happy! We began talking about little things and then the comedian began to do a parody of a song I liked.

She said that he shouldn't be making fun of that song because it was really good. I told her I agreed and that's where we really started to talk casually about other things. It was evening and I had been waiting to see the view of the outside at night on the ocean, so I suggested we all go out and walk around on the deck. We all went out and ended up on the back of the boat.

One by one people began to leave and finally everyone left except her and I. I was so happy that we would finally get to talk alone. I asked if she would like to go to the lower deck to talk and get out of the wind and she said ok. We immediately clicked; it was the greatest time I've ever had.

Later, she told me if I wasn't younger than her (oh yeah she was 21, 2 yrs. older than me at the time but, my birthday was in a couple days) and if she didn't have a boyfriend she would go out with me if we lived near each other. I thought that was great and I wasn't too discouraged by her having a boyfriend because she told me about how they were having problems.

That night went very well and we finally decided to go in at about 4:20 am and also decided to meet up again the next day.

The next day I woke up and went to breakfast. I went back to my room and sat there for a while and the phone rang. It was her, and she asked me to come to her room and get her. So I did and we went out around the boat. I don't really know what we did that whole day to pass the time but it was great. We mostly sat on the deck and enjoyed the view.

That night, we decided to go out to the front of the boat on the very top deck. There were a few other people there. The view was beautiful. The moon was on the other side of the boat that night but there were storms in the distance that made it amazing added to the already beautiful girl that was spending time with me.

I would look over to her and she would look me in the eyes and she would turn her head and take a deep breath. "Don't do that," She would say, "It gives me butterflies." I could sit and look at her eyes forever, I didn't tell her, but her eyes gave me the same feeling.

We talked again for a while and I had the greatest urge just to put my arm around her. It was eating at me so I told her what I felt. She told me if I wanted, I could put my arm around her. I told her I thought it would be wrong even though I would only be holding her. I told her I respected her relationship and that I wouldn't want it to lead to other things that would ruin a relationship. The rest of that night all I could think about was holding her.

The next day was pretty much the same except that night I gave in and put my arm around her, but that is as far as it went. I really felt like I was in heaven during that night. I wished it would never end. We again enjoyed the view together and I was very open to her about my feelings and thoughts. I had never been that comfortable with anyone else in my life and it seemed so right. We again stayed out until early morning.

The last day was different. I was naive and didn't realize that time was moving fast and tonight would be our last together. I couldn't believe it was going to be over so I kind of pushed that thought aside and had another day with her. We were getting so close I felt as if I knew her so well and I did. We told each other so many personal things. We completely opened up to each other over this trip. It was getting late and we got some people to take some pictures for us. We talked about keeping in touch and agreed we would write and mail and maybe an occasional call. This evening no one was out. We took some lawn chairs to the back deck and enjoyed the view of the bright moon reflecting on the calm ocean. The view itself was breathtaking.

The butterflies I felt every time I looked at her this evening were very intense. We ended up not using the other chair; she sat in front of me on mine and laid back on me. I knew eventually on this night I was going to have to give in and kiss her, but I felt it was both wrong and right at the same time. I asked her what she was thinking about and she told me to look at her and I did.

She said "ok, I'm waiting for you to kiss me now." Holding back I told her it wouldn't be right. She told me that she really wanted me to. I wanted to so much and couldn't hold back any longer. I looked at her and said this is quite an awkward position to kiss.

Then I kissed her. It was a great kiss, I think, under the moon and looking over the ocean. I took a deep breath and realized that this was a really great choice to kiss her. This was the perfect most romantic first kiss I have ever imagined and it involved me.

We tried to stay out as long as we could consider it was the last night. She began to get cold and tired so we decided to go in. I walked her to her room and stood there and hugged her for a while. For some stupid reason we thought we would see each other the next morning so we didn't really hug long.

I told her I didn't want to go and she said "I know, but I will see you tomorrow." I told her goodnight and turned away, immediately when I turned from her my eyes began to fill with tears. I was upset but I thought I would see her the next day.

It turned out I wouldn't see her the next day after all. I was very upset and all I could think about was her! I was very quiet that whole day and listened to a song over and over again that we both liked during the cruise. I didn't realize she was really gone until that night. I lay in bed in the hotel room and cried for a long time thinking about her and how I would probably never see her again. This was absolutely depressing to me and was having a really hard time.

Three days later I was home and I got a call from her at the park before she left for home. Then I realized that she liked me as much as I liked her considering she called me even before she got home. She said she was having more problems with her boyfriend and eventually ended up breaking up with him.

We ended up talking every day on the phone quite a bit. It's been 2-3 months and there's only been one day that we haven't talked. She will visit me soon and I will come to her graduation.I have known for a while now that I love her. I didn't know what love was until I met her. All the times I said I love you to others meant nothing compared to the feeling behind the words when I say them to her. I will never stop loving her, and I hope she never stops loving me. We both agree we will eventually get married. I know I'm young, but my love for her won't allow me to do anything else. I believe she has the same feelings for me and I now know that life is so much more beautiful when you have found real love. My feelings are deeper than love. She is more than my love she is my life.

14 things A MAN should know how to do
14 THINGS A MAN SHOULD KNOW HOW TO DO 14. CLEAN YOUR APARTMENT: All it takes is the right tools. You need a broom, a mop, a vacuum cleaner or swifter which can complete most of the steps. Vacuum the carpets mop up your kitchen floor and sweep the tiles or hard wood floors. 13. KNOT A TIE: Learn how to knot a tie for those important business meetings or formal affairs. Just make sure you give yourself enough time to do it while getting ready, so as not to rush. 12. PLAY POKER: Yes, there are all sorts of rules and tricks to poker, but you need to learn the behavior involved in the game to take home the winnings. 11. CHANGE A TYRE: We don’t always have the luxury of having others stop to help us if we are stuck with a flat tyre. And what if a sexy woman flags us down off the road to change her flat tyre? In a nutshell put the parking brake and hazard lights on, get out your lug nut wrench and car jack, remove the hubcap, and loosen the lug nuts followed by the flat tyre. Put the new tyre onto the wheel studs, screw the lug nuts back on and make sure they are screwed on tight. 10. PREPARE BREAKFAST IN BED: If you have an unexpected house guest sleeping over, impress her with your ability to make breakfast in bed. Just put together scrambled eggs, toast, juice and some fruit, which should be enough to tempt her to spend the night more often. 9. CURE A HANGOVER: If your bar is really well stocked for your own good or you are the type that is often on a binge, then you may need to learn how to avoid a hangover and how to treat it incase you lose track of all your own shots. All it takes is the ability to know your limits and pace yourself. 8. MAKE LOVE: Make sure the mood is right and try as much as possible to be patient. Start with a peck, slow kisses, gentle caresses, long kisses and a lot of foreplay. Don’t rush into the main course. Know when to go fast or slow, the trick is to watch out for her body language and capitalize on what really turns her on. Leave a lasting impression don’t be selfish and domineering. 7. SEW A BUTTON: Get a needle and a thread (preferably the same color as the button or fabric of your clothes). Just lace the thread in the eye of the needle and tie a knot, and then go in out of the holes of the button (usually 2-4 times). Continue weaving until the button is secure and then cut the string. 6. SMOKE A CIGAR: Smoking a cigar is an art form, so learn the lingo. Cut the head, light the cigar, remove the band and smoke away. Just don’t inhale! 5. SET THE MOOD: Get some candles and incense going. Put on some light jazz, R&B, or swing on your CD player, and proceed slowly. Whatever you do don’t get carried away and start dancing running man or MC Hammer stuff! 4. UNDO A BRA: Put your hands under her blouse. Now remember that a bra is clipped with hooks, as opposed to buttons or snaps. Simply take the two parts at the back of the bra near the center and push them together to unhook. Once you are a pro, you’ll be able to unhook it with a flick of your wrist. 3. MANAGE STRESS: Put things into perspective and take things one day at a time. Improve your time management skills and get into the habit of taking breathers. (a walk, counting to ten, etc). Try not to show weakness or break down in the presence of your employees. Toughen up and take control of stress. 2. CHOOSE THE RIGHT WINE: Impress her with your wine savviness and choose the right bottle for your dinner date. Generally choose red for pasta and seafood, and white for fish. It also depends on whether you are having a light or heavy meal and how much you want to spend. 1. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY: Get off the couch, get a job, pay those bills and get a life. Don’t runaway from your responsibilities after all it takes a man to impregnate a woman.

Why do I still feel attraction for someone else?
Sometimes, you might find yourself in a relationship with a person, but once in a while you find yourself being attracted or maybe; should I say, having feelings for another. You might begin to wonder to yourself and say, "But I am in love with my partner. How come I still feel attracted to another person?"This kind of situation plays itself day in and day out in different relationships everywhere around the world. The question one might ask is, is this normal, and if it is, why? Well, most surprisingly, it is a normal thing for any person within a relationship to discover that he/she might have some "feelings" or attraction towards another person entirely. In most cases, this is usually the catalyst for problems in some relationships or situations of mistrust within couples. But to get around the problems that usually arise out of this situation, one has to take a closer look at it and understand it so as to know how to handle it properly. Most of the time, you could see a guy having a relationship with a wonderful girl. All is cool and fine between them. But then he discovers that he has an attraction for another girl. Mostly due to her physical attributes or just some superb quality about her. She might be a colleague at the office or a friend he met somewhere. The girl too would probably know the effect she has on him and would definitely play it to her advantage. The guy would then be torn between his feelings for this new girl and his love for his partner. He might not show it but one way or the other, the feeling is there and would be an internal crisis for him. In the long run, he might decide to play along with his feelings and then result in having another relationship with the new girl and probably disregard his original relationship or just plainly begin an affair. Thus bringing about problems for everyone involved. Well, the truth about the issue is this; every human being, no matter who they are or where they come from, will always have these crazy little feelings of attraction for another person even if they are in a relationship with somebody. This is so because we were created like that. Men and women were created to attract themselves. It is something that cannot be helped so definitely, attractions of different kinds and measures would always exist. But what matters here is our response to these attractions.We should know that these feelings we feel are just feelings and nothing more than that. They are never strong basis for anything. They shouldn't lead us into making stupid decisions. We have to consider a number of things whenever we find ourselves faced with such situations. · We always have to remember that when we say we love our partners, we are committed to them. They have to come in first and alone in our dedication and endeavors. So whenever these feelings come up, we should label them mentally as feelings and then concentrate harder on being committed to our partners. · Do not create situations or opportunities that would enhance or magnify these odd attractions. Be very clear about who you are and your stand should always be clear just incase the recipient of your attractions decides to play it up to his/her advantage. · Channel all your feelings to your partner and gradually let go of your crazy attractions. · Always have it at the back of your mind that these attractions are there to test your commitment to your partner. Should you fail to overcome such attractions or fall prey to them, you have automatically proven that you are not committed and are not worthy of your partner. Following the last point above, these attractions that come up can be labeled as distractions or temptations. They should be seen as challenges to our commitments. Viewing them thus, it should be our prerogative to overcome them. We should make all endeavors to overcome them by resisting any form of pleasure or whatever thing imaginable that might obtain should we give in, and focus on what we have; that is, our beautiful and growing relationships.One other thing we should know is that these attractions that we get are there for us to be able to get more value out of our relationships. What I mean is, value can only be added to something when it has been tested and tried and has come out superb. We can't really ascribe value to anything when there hasn't been any thing to test it. We can attain and experience true victory or success in our relationships when we have been able to go through the trials involved (attractions and temptations) and come out unscathed, untainted and ok. Then we would be able to really value ourselves and our relationships because we have these trials to measure them up against.One can't really ascribe value to a relationship or anything for that matter if there isn't anything to measure it up against. Also, we should know that our relationships; courtships and marriages, are similar to our relationship with God.God is our creator and it is our responsibility to stay committed to him in faith and in every other way despite the temptations and trials we may face from the world. We are usually faced with different situations and trials sometimes that might want to make us compromise our stand with God. But our knowledge of what we have with God should always come in first in our response and thus, make us resist these situations and focus on pleasing and serving him. Then are we assured of making it with God.So it should be with our relationships. We definitely will face temptations, go through periods of unexplainable crazy attractions for other people besides our partners; but our decision would be to stand fast and focus on making our relationships to be all that they can be. Then can we be able to have relationships of great value and sure hope for success. Again, I'd like to say that if we ever want to know how to handle our relationships properly we should take a cue from our relationship with God. That would definitely help us out big time. Hoping all these points turn out to be helpful to us all as we strive forward for the best in our relationships.